Married Taiwanese Men's Perception and Expression of IntimacyFacilities
關鍵詞 Key words : 男性 ； 婚姻 ； 親密感 ； 性別差異 ； gender differences ； intimacy ； marriage ； men's studies
Purpose: Intimacy plays a vital role in marriage, yet men and women often experience intimacy differently. The existing literature regarding intimacy mainly focuses on interpersonal expression and communication, which women are usually good at. Men's experiences are unclear. We explored how Taiwanese husbands perceive and express intimacy in their marriage. Methods: We recruited 3 groups of 7 husbands based on the length of their marriage: 1 to 3 years, 3 to 19 years, and more than 19 years. We interviewed these 21 participants and conducted a qualitative analysis of the verbatim interviews. Results: Participants perceived intimacy with their wives in: mutual engagement, being taken care of or taking care of her, sparkling moments, rituals and tacit understanding, being needed/recognized/validated, and sex. Participants expressed affection towards their wives through: physical contact, sex, doing things for her, adapting to her demands, considerately forbearance surprises, verbal expressions, doing what she prefers. Conclusions: We identified 3 main findings. First, many husbands feel intimate with their wives through mutual engagement in activities such as going to the market or picking up kids with her. Second, through sex men can feel intimate, express affection, or regulate tension in the relationship. And third, many husbands express their love by means of actions, which are prone to misperception in relationship. Intimacy between couples can be enhanced if men learn to express affection in response to their wives' expectations, and women learn to perceive their husbands' action-oriented expressions of affection.